This blog is about my life and experiences as a single childfree Black millennial woman.

The list of topics covered will undoubtedly grow as time wears on, but for now, this blog is about the things I deeply care about at this stage of life: Being at peace and making home a safe space, seeking out meaningful and memorable experiences, building stronger relationships, travel and culture, and living intentionally and consciously - in a practical sense (taking care of my body and mind, buying less and better, being involved in my community, making time and space in my life for the activities I love, etc).

In 2026, I’m focused on using what I have. I’ll be reporting on that journey as a whole as well as little lessons, recommendations and stories along the way.

That’s the quick rundown to get you started.

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I’m an Elder Millennial/Xennial - born, raised and live in the Los Angeles area. Doing my darnedest everyday to make the most of my single childfree (not childless) life.

It’s probably something that needs to be unpacked in therapy, but I have an underlying need to be prepared for almost anything. Not in a doomsday prepper way, but in a “if I have a cocktail party, I’ll need a strainer” kind of way. If my friends with kids come over, I should have bumpers for my sharp ashell coffee table. There are many times when this need comes in handy (the bumpers), but other times, it can be a burden. I have a lot - but I’m not using most of it. In addition to feeling a need to be prepared, I’m just one of many of us who sadly saves their best clothes for special occasions and wears lounge clothes all day because I work at home. I’m one of the many who leaves their best dishes on display on a shelf, unused. The best wine I’ve purchased from travels near and far remains in a cabinet because it’s not “worth” drinking if I’m the only one drinking it.

I’m done with that.

This year (2026), not only have I made it my mission to use what I have, but my goal is to give everything in my house and home and if it doesn’t have a home, it has to (responsibly) go. Over the last six years, I think I’ve become better when it comes to purchasing decisions, but there’s always room to grow. For example, it’s not the fact that I have a lot that bothers me, it’s that most of it goes unused. I wouldn’t even think about the money I spent if I was spending my Sunday listening to records and making paella in my Staub while a gorgeous candle I’ve lit lifts my mood. But yeah, those candles are unlit. The Staub has dust.

I’m not going no-buy, but I am going low-buy, with the deal that there are just certain things I don’t need more of until they’re worn out or gotten rid of (workout leggings, for example, along with kitchen gadgets). I’m also a realist - books are too hard to resist, so I won’t even pretend I’m capable of stopping that habit. But even on that front, being intentional looks like: donating and selling books, using the library again, shopping library sales and used bookstores more often than new stores, creating a personal curriculum and shopping my own bookshelves first. In fact, I built most of my first curriculum with newly acquired books lying around my living room. I haven’t even entered the depths of my office bookshelves. I’m prepared! I have what I need! How much more fulfilling and interesting would my life be if I used what I already had?

And, I absolutely LOVE talking about what I love. So yes, I’m going to talk about the amazing book I read, or the fantastic small boutique I discovered unexpectedly, or my favorite places around town and from my travels. I’ll be talking about what I’ve learned, what I love, what I recommend, and what I’m experiencing as I move along my journey to create a more harmonious life.